We have all felt loss whether through heartbreak of a broken relationship, divorce, loss of a friendship, loss of a loved one/death, loss of a dream, job or finances. Hopelessness, helplessness, grief, rejection, shame, and betrayal are felt by everyone from such loss. We all go through the fear of Abandonment. Let us go through this journey together of healing the wounds of Abandonment. To overcome the loss building Self-Esteem, resolving trust issues, identifying the self-defeating thoughts and behaviors to make better choices and finding love for yourself and others.
“Black Swan is a symbol for healing, a spirit guide for overcoming the woundedness of abandonment.”
Black Swan: The Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery is a self-help tool, a supplement for personal growth.
Black Swan provides twelve lessons for healing from the loss of love. It is presented as an allegorical tale of a child who meets a magical black swan after she is abandoned in the forest by her father. This story within a story includes the author’s own experience with loss. The book provides emotional and spiritual healing to those going through heartbreak, loss, and abandonment.
The fear of abandonment is one of our most primal fears, and deservedly so. Its pain is often overwhelming, and can leave its mark on the rest of your life. In the midst of the hurt, it’s hard to see an end to your feelings of rejection, shame, and betrayal.
In this updated edition of the groundbreaking book, Susan Anderson, a therapist who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than thirty years, shares recent discoveries in neuroscience that help put your pain in perspective. It is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups—whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether you are caught up in patterns that sabotage your own relationships, or you’re in a relationship in which you no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
Going beyond comforting words to promote real change, this healing process will help you work through the five universal stages of abandonment—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting—by understanding their biochemical and behavioral origins and implications. New hands-on exercises for improving your life will teach you how to manage the inevitable pain, then go on to build a whole new concept of self, increase your capacity for love, and find new love on a deeper and richer level than ever before.
One day everything is fine. The next, you find yourself without everything you took for granted. Love has turned sour. The people you depended on have let you down. You feel you’ll never love again.
But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, psychotherapist and abandonment expert Susan Anderson explores the seemingly endless pain of heartbreak and shows readers how to break free—whether the heartbreak comes from divorce, a breakup, a death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream.
The Abandonment Recovery Workbook provides an itinerary for recovery. A manual for individual or support group use, it includes exercises that the author has tested and developed through her years of expertise in abandonment recovery.
Anderson provides concrete recovery tools and exercises to discover and heal underlying issues, identify self-defeating behaviors of mistrust and insecurity, and build self-esteem. Guiding you through the five stages of your journey—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, and lifting—this book (a new edition of Anderson’s Journey from Heartbreak to Connection) serves as as a source of strength. You will come away with a new sense of self—a self with an increased capacity to love.
Chances are, you’ve already had run-ins with your Outer Child — the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. Your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans.
Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist Susan Anderson offers a three-step program to tame your Outer Child’s destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies — action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain — calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self, releases you from the self-blame and shame at the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. The result is happiness, fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.